A letter from a discreet gay Doctor.
I was surprised how SPANATIC JHAIRO’s existence became famous in social media. I never expect that I will gain a small to huge respect to my readers. I received numerous email and messages from my face account- to the point that I can no longer reply them one by one.
Prior to this holy week, I received an email from a follower of my blog. While reading it, I can relate how he felt while doing such correspondence. I was about to create a reply but I was in hurry for my long weekend vacation since I just received his mail on that moment.
As a promise to him, I write this post and opted to publicize than sending him personal. Because I’m pretty sure that everyone can relate this piece.
Let us read his mail.
Hi jhairo hope to hv tips frm u re: spa services..iv read some not so good feedbcks and comments re: masseurs like stolen personal belongings of clients. Quite hesitant to avail such services na.pls enlighten me bout d this business. Hope to make friends with u ty-am Doc Mike
Nga pala i hv no pic in my profile coz am married with kids my wife doesnt know.hope u get what i mean and hope u understand my situation hirap nga k ty in adv:)
Hi Doc Mike.
Thank you for sending this message. While reading this – I felt where youre coming from. And I was surprise that a “medically inclined person” will send an email to me. Actually, you are the second medical practitioner I have knew starting when my identity online exist. Unlike the first Doctor – we met in person and converse about a thing that we are in common. And so... I knew how to handle this kind of fracas
I think Deviation approach is the only way how I can give you my advice based on your letter. Since your letter is quite shorter but behind those phrases are the meaningful statement and I can read it between the lines.
The first and major point of your letter is the security as a client – you’re not even mentioning about the relaxation, even the prize, and the good service. Why? Let me give you my viewpoint – I will not give you a deeper advice – I knew you are wiser than me. “Ilalatag ko lang ang braha at ikaw na ang mamimili”.
“Quite hesitant to avail such services na.pls enlighten me bout d this business” – try to reflect why? Is it really because you are scared that someone might execute robbery during the massage? I don’t think so..
Iisa lang ang dahilan, ang ugat ng pagdadalawang isip mo. It has nothing to do with any fortuitous events that might happen. It is all about hiding who you are and you are afraid of it. You are afraid the judgments from the society since you have a NAME. You are not hesitant paying 50k for a massage but you are uncertain to have an encounter with same sex because 50k is nothing versus the name that you have earned.
“Natatakot ka dahil may anak ka at pamilya na pwedeng itakwil ka pag nalaman na mahilig ka din pala sa masahe ni ADAN” . Natatakot ka na sa likod ng nakasakbay na stethoscope sa iyong balikat ay nakatago ang isang lalaking nangangailangan ng haplos ng kapwa lalaki.
“..iv read some not so good feedbcks and comments re: masseurs like stolen personal belongings of clients.” Then don’t bring any lavish belongings and live it to your car.
Breath-in! natatakot ka ba mawalan ng gamit? O natatakot ka mag parking sa harap ng isang SPAkol?
As I said , I already met this well-known DOCTOR and a businessman.
“Di naman talaga ako bakla pare, kasi may anak ako at may asawa ako” he said to me while we were driving to a coffee shop.
“ Di ako tsumutsupa, at ako ang tsinutsupa ng mga masahista” he added.
I was on silence that time. “Oh common” I said it to myself.
I understand how he identify himself and I respect it but the point that you practice MSM (men having sex with men) that’s different issue.
I started to open my mouth and uttered my point of view to him.
“Alam mo sir! Kung bakit ang mga bakla mas nag exist sa madidilim na lugar? Dahil sa liwanag nandun ang paghuhusga. At mas nagiging tanggap sila sa dilim na lugar dahil naipapakita nila ang sino sila” I started.
He was shock with my statement.
“alam mo ba bakit madaming bakla sa rundown na sinehan, sa CR, sa MRT, sa gaybar , lalo na sa Spa?” I asked.
He kept on driving..
“Because these are the places where they truly belong.”
“Dahil di tanggap ng lipunan ang mga bakla, kung may makikita kang straight couple na naghahalikan sa public – diba we ignored it. Bakit dalawang lalaki na naghahawak kamay – napapako ang mga tingin natin?. Dahil sa society – hindi ito ang NORMS. “
“Sino ba ang nag set ng standard ng NORMS diba ang society? Ang society ay nahahati sa dalawa –mainly the majority and the minority. At masakit man tangapin , ang majority ang nagsasabi sa tama at mali. Eh papano naman ang minority?”
“And so these people belong in minority will look their own haven. And so SPAkol industry survived.”
Noticed this “Nga pala i hv no pic in my profile coz am married with kids my wife doesnt know.hope u get what i mean and hope u understand my situation hirap nga k ty in adv:) – Undeniably, It is truly difficult if you are a family-man.
“Ang lakas loob ay makukuha mo lang kung tatanggapin mo sa sarili mo kung ano ka at mahalin mo ito – And Im pretty sure, you can now step-in in an entrance of SPA to satisfy your carnal needs.
Hindi ka lang nag iisa na nahihirapan, hanggat may discrimination at paghuhusga. Mananatili ang mga SPA na pwede tumanggap kung ano ka at sino tayo. Wag na tayo maging hipokrito.
Thank you so much for writing sana natulongan kita.
Join him in his adventure - Recommend a SPA or massage parlor so that I can visit.